You're blowing things out of proportion. Its not that big of a deal. They're trying to have a smooth launch. They are entitled to their secrecy. Even after launch.
When launch happens, however, there is an expectation that I will be able to login and play, that is pretty much promised. No such thing for stress tests. And even then, it doesn't matter.
Today should be interesting too I think. Since most of NA will be off work and ready to slam that login button as soon as the servers open.
Sent from my Galaxy Nexus.